Loving Life after 50

How Blogging teaches you to be a ” Proper Wife”

I started this yesterday on International Women’s Day, a little humour to show us how far we have come.

Today Yesterday iswas  International Woman’s Day and while surfing the internet I came across a few interesting articles. One was from a Home Economics Textbook ( supposedly) from the 50’s and the other I found on a blog that indicated it was from a Christian handbook.
As I was reading the lists I kept thinking sarcastically to myself how each of them are so closely entwined with blogging.  So for all the single young (or older) ladies out there,  take heart, all this blogging is preparing you to be the perfect wife. If you keep blogging and treat your blog right you will one day make some lucky guy the perfect Proper Wife.

1950’s List
  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
See plan ahead, have it ready, so be it his dinner or your post you are learning the art of prepping in advance, plus all those recipes posted by everyone else that you are reading are natures way of providing you many recipe books in advance.
  • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
So an outfit of the day post is not self serving nor vain, again you are just getting in practice so that you will always look your best for your man.
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
No depressing posts,  all those fun little stories you tell and the humour you insert into your posts again just your way of preparing for the future
  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
Blog designs,  how many times have you heard,  clear away the clutter, running the dustcloth is just like taking that one last glance at your sidebar and cleaning it up,  golly you are going to make one great little wifey.
  • Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Catering to his needs, catering to your followers needs, again, practice makes perfect here.
  • Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
Minimize noise, do not have music playing on your blog, it is distracting and as for keeping the children quiet, well that is your permission to every so often turn your comments off, keep the children quiet right??
  • Be happy to see him.
Smile when we comment.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
Always respond to your comments with a positive upbeat statement
  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
When you are reading another bloggers post and you have something to add, well stop yourself, this will be great practice for the future.  What they are saying is far more important than what you can add right??
  • Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
Never be resentful of another blogger, when they get a gift, or free merchandise or a trip, tell yourself they deserve it, not you.
  • Your goal: To try and make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Your blog is the happy place we all go to feel better about ourselves, it is your job to always be upbeat and always make us smile.
  • Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
Remember we do not want to hear your complaining, so again, happy thoughts.
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Always make me feel welcome, give me presents and giveaways, I mean seriously it is all about me your follower isn’t it.
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice
Always post pleasant posts and make upbeat comments to me, provide me with a safe environment to complain about my life and what I expect from you.
  • Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
If I post a comment about your blog, don’t question me, I have the right to say whatever I want.
  • A good wife always knows her place.
A good blogger always knows her place.
See don’t you feel so much better now,  all the blogging you do and all the times you bite your tongue it’s all just practice, and for those who are already wives well blogging is just your reminder of what a good wife does. 
So a little tongue in cheek but I swear sometimes the blogging world and some people
 ( mostly anonymous people) should move back to the 50’s where they belong


Now moving on to the next chapter and forgive me Christian folk and maybe it would be best for you not to ready any further so that I do not offend you.  However, I need to proceed because there is actually some pretty sound advice that a blogger should adopt.

  • Plan out your schedule at least one week in advance. List out which days you will be making dinner, and which days you will be ordering or going out for dinner. Corresponding your meals with your schedule will help you to know which days a quick dinner is necessary, and when a more elaborate menu can be planned.
Something to be said for this one, planning and scheduling are two important aspects to blogging ( and I have not been there yet but I am trying). Personally I just down loaded a free printable from But First Coffee and I hope to actually get this one thing under control
  • Make your shopping list as you plan your menu, and your shopping for the week will be finished in one shot! You won’t waste time running to the store for missing ingredients for a last-minute dinner idea, and you won’t find yourself out of tomatoes 10 minutes before your tacos go on the table!
make your list as you plan your schedule, pretty sound advise I think,  what do I need for my posts this week….. will I need pictures, am I cooking, am I crafting… plan, plan, plan.
  • Make yourself attractive for your husband. (Hopefully he finds you attractive no matter what, but it’s nice to make the effort anyway) Make sure you are showered, dressed (well, that’s optional ;)), and “done up” when he gets home. (Or, if that’s too much – at least get out of your p.j.’s or work out clothes!).
Again OOTD see future prep time here, hopefully our followers love us anyway but is it not important to look our best and take the best pictures we can.
  • Exercise regularly – for health and beauty reasons! I feel so much better about myself after just one workout. That self-confidence will carry through to other areas of your life and marriage, too! Also, it will keep your heart healthy for your kids and for many more years with your beloved!
Exercise regularly and think of all the additional posts you will have,  a whole new series to schedule in,  plus a healthy body leads to a healthy mind, so posts will be easier to write as you become more confident.
  • Tackle one major clutter area per day. Spend at least 20 minutes, but no more than 1 hour on it. Spend another hour doing basic housework – dishes, laundry, bathroom, etc. You’ll be amazed at how much work can be done in that little amount of time!
Schedule you email time, and your pinterest time and your instagram time, twenty minutes per social media and  there ya have it finally you are on top of everything
  • If your husband works outdoors, have a cold/hot drink ready for him when he comes home. He will feel appreciated by that small gesture. Look for other ways you can show appreciation too – making his favorite foods, giving a back massage, or leaving him a note in his lunch bag.
Sponsorships, giveaways, free ad space, guest posts, social media shout outs,  all those little things that you can do to show that yes you care.
  • Give your husband your undivided attention for at least 20 minutes each evening. Turn off the TV (or the computer), send the kids off to play (or have them clean the kitchen after dinner while you relax with hubby, if they’re old enough for that), and talk. Aside from the obvious marital benefit, your kids need to see that Mom and Dad have a relationship with each other, not just with them. It gives them security!
Your blog needs at least 20 minutes of your undivided attention everyday, yes folks everyday and this way everyone in your life will know just how important this little blog is in your life and they will satrt accepting that it needs your undivided attention in order to flourish and grow.
  • Do your best not to complain to your husband. If you have concerns, share them… especially if they are related to your marriage! but minor complaints are often best kept unsaid.
Do your best not to complain on your blog but if they are serious complaints like someone stealing your work, or being especially viscious then it is OK to share and talk it out.
  • Find ways to encourage and compliment your husband. He thrives on your approval and admiration! Shoot him an email at work, text him throughout the day, or face to face when you’re home… it’s all good!
Do your best to make you blog feel good, it thrives the more attention you pay to it, shoutouts through the day, a nice little clip on twitter or facebook, sharing it’s picture on pinterest, it will thrive on your approval and attention.
  • Submit to his authority as head of the household. If you disagree with your husband, share it (respectfully!), but willingly submit to whatever he decides (except of course if it goes against God’s word and causes you to sin). Even if you are adamant against it, and even if he later finds out it was the wrong decision as well, you need to be united. Do not grumble, roll your eyes, or complain… and NEVER say “I told you so!”
Treat your blog as you would like to be treated but remember it is the boss of you,  you should submit to the will of your blog always.
  • Make time for friends. Get together with other couples, and also have some girls’ nights! During our first year of marriage, most of my friendships with other women faded out because I was afraid to go anywhere without my husband. Now, we both realize, for the sake of the health of our marriage – I NEED THOSE NIGHTS!! (Warning: Never, never, never belittle or disrespect your husband to your friends! Don’t join in to malicious gossip! Be respectful and loving at all times!)
See Blates are good for you and will help your relationship with your blog grow.Remember never disrespect your blog or anyone else’s blog when on your blate.
  • This last one I deleted as I did not want to seem disrespectful.

Original article”  http://www.snopes.co and thestrivingwife.com and pictures from http://stevenwwatkins.com/2012/08/06/old-school-ads-youll-never-see-again/