My Mom raised me better than that

Thank heavens it is Random Wednesday because I must have a bijillion twenty different thoughts running through my head that i feel the urge to  put on paper blog.  Forgive me and please stay with my during my rambling thoughts because I think its a discussion we all need to have ( And I promise my Outfit post will come right after this)

So, MEAN GIRLS, shouldn’t that concept have been left back in high school, where is still shouldn’t belong but at least there you can understand it. ( they still have a lot of growing up to do and maybe haven’t yet realized the harm that words can do) Why do people in this world feel the need/desire to make mean spiteful comments that can serve no purpose other than to hurt someone.  I truly do not understand that. Yesterday, a blogger that I follow religiously wrote about a mean comment that she received,  I ask you, WHY,  why in the name of anything that you hold dear would you make such a spiteful little comment???

Now my thoughts on this are not limited to just what this blogger experienced, it is bigger than that… Have you ever followed a celebrity on instagram??? Why do people opt to follow a celebrity that they hate or despise, I don’t get it.  No-one makes you follow someone, and if you do not like them, then for f -sakes “UNFOLLOW” there is a really easy button for that. ( even easier then the Staple’s Easy Button, cuz the one on social media actually works, it allows you to follow or unfollow at will, yep “Free Will” just click)

I have followed Kim Kardashian in the past and the haters,  good lord they are mean, if ya don’t like her why are you following her?? It’s not like she is posting anything that it critical that you receive to sustain life so that means you personally opted to follow, now you want to beat her down with rude and nasty comments?? ,  Nicole Ritchie another celebrity who I have followed and watched the comments,  constantly gets comments about her size, one comment to you followers,  people if you don’t like her size don’t follow her.  This is not complicated at all, you do not need to be a physicist to understand the laws of the universe when it comes to this…and even Sheldon eventually understood the aspect of keeping some thoughts to yourself.

Yesterday on Instagram, a person actually commented on The Freckled Fox about her picture of sheets, the comment was something along the lines of not liking her picture of her slept in sheets and what’s next her dirty laundry?” I was like WTF, seriously you felt the need to make that comment.  Emily responded very well and very politely told the woman to frig off.  ( or actually told her  it was a photo assignment and maybe if the women was having such a hard time following her and liking her stuff then maybe they were not meant to follow each other,  NICE)

I am not yet a big enough or important enough or famous enough with my blog to have started attracting the haters yet but that does not make me not supportive of what the others are going through. Plus my mother
( and grandmother) raised me way better than that,  honestly if I do not like what you are wearing, I don’t comment, or maybe I just comment about what you wrote. If I think your instagram picture is odd, well I just don’t hit like or comment, again a little courtesy folks. I think we have missed the concept of Social Media and what ” social” actually is.

I feel so sorry for those in the limelight, yes I know that they have asked to be in the spotlight but that does not give the public the unfettered right to rip them apart, what are we a pack of mangy dogs just circling for any weakness.   Celebrities are constantly under scrutiny for what they wear, how they look, who they are with, what do the kids look like, and yes they do get paid very well for being famous but again that does not give society unfetterd rights to everything about them and if you want to follow them on social media then great, go crazy but exercise a little restraint, act like the grown up you are supposed to be and just ask yourself one little question before you post something ” If this was said to me, how would I feel?”

For a blogger who is putting themselves out there and some really and truly do, I only ask one thing, OK
maybe two 1) ask yourself the same question I mentioned above, of how would you feel if this was said or done to you? and 2) even if you are that thick skinned that you are saying to yourself in your twelve year old voice ‘ i wouldn’t care ( of which I am calling bull shit cuz if you made the mean statement it says a lot about who you are and what you feel) anyway back to my 2)  If you do not have something nice to say just don’t say it.

Many posts do try to engage you and bloggers do ask questions seeking your opinions but when it comes to their personal appearance is it really appropriate to tell them they are fat, or frumpy, or ugly or anything negative?  If ya don’t like the outfit and they ask the question, sure go ahead, its OK to say,  not really my style or I don’t really like that blouse/skirt/necklace but it is never ever, ever ok to say you are fat/ugly/frumpy/old/skinny  or any other phrase that you know in our heart of hearts is nothing more than an insult.

I can see the wheels spinning with some of you, I can hear the comments now,  but I am only trying to be helpful, it’s because I care, again bull crap people if you are making the comment you are not their friend, if you cared you would politely provide positive suggestions for things they can change or do in person) not on a blog public comment board.

Now I am looking at my post and I  wondering about the appropriateness of continuing with my other random thoughts,  just doesn’t seem appropriate so i will break the unwritten blogger rule of number of posts in a day and keep this post strictly to keeping it real but keeping it polite  folks.